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2023.06.10 03:13 Formal_Taste1627 M24 F22, 2 year relationship. My boyfriend says I’m not helping enough, what should I do?

My boyfriend is getting visibly fed up that I'm not meeting him half way with well, anything. I know by the first like you're probably like "I would be too" but there's more.
I'm a 22 year old college student starting my MBA I’m August, who has worked since I could to make ends meet. I have many bills and no support from my parents. I feel like I've never had the chance to just breath as I'm always worried about finances, working, really making it through life. He is the complete opposite as he's had so much support and such a large savings account. He won't help me out financially and I don't expect him to since we aren't married. (He won't send me money for lunch because he says if he does, he's enabling me to not save money because he'll keep covering for me). In my defense, I can't save when I have so many bills. I work 9am-6pm and when I get home I'm tired. I'm stressed. I'm worried about how much money I'm going to have to survive. He works from home so when he's home he's cleaning. I get home and the apartment is already clean. I don't really ask what needs to be done, I should work on that but I'm literally on survival mode.
Plus we moved to a new town and I have no friends and I'm really just depressed overall. Recently I had to take time off of work because of an unknown health issue that my doctors can't figure out. I have many appointments, and am basically bed ridden.
He just keeps complaining that I'm not helping, I want to but I'm just exhausted physically and mentally. I really don't know what to do.
Any advice is great.
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2023.06.10 03:12 kubey27 Dog Friendly Neighborhoods Colorado Springs

I'm moving from Maryland to Colorado Springs in about 6 months as my boyfriend has been stationed at Fort Carson and I'm hoping to get advice on where to rent. We're in our late 20s and have 2 dogs who I take to the dog park daily so ideally I'd love a neighborhood thats nice and safe to walk. We'd like a single family home with a fenced in yard. I also do orange theory multiple times a week before work so it would be nice to be close to one of the 3 in the area (Broadmoor, Academy, or Stetson Hills). He moved out there himself a month ago and he is in Broadmoor near the orange theory there in an apartment and I don't know if it's just his immediate area but I didn't love the neighborhood though I'd heard nice things about Broadmoor. Looking online it also looks like there are a lot of affordable homes for rent in Old Colorado City so I'm curious what that area is like. I'm a dentist and I haven't started looking for jobs yet but I'm hoping to find a practice without too much of a commute. Any advice is greatly appreciated, thanks! :)
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2023.06.10 03:11 Alien-Apocalypse Lazy neighbor with husky

There is an extreamly obese man maybe mid 30s with a young no more than 2year old husky that lives at my apartment building. He's on the bottom floor with his patio door basically being the main parking lot. There is a very small mulched area right outside the bottom units just as a small buffer between the building and side walk. Around the corner is the dog park area. But this man never takes this poor dog more than 5steps out of his back door, harasses the poor thing to poop. Bags it and leaves it on his step(basically the sidewalk of the parking lot). I feel so terrible for this husky that clearly wants to run and play and adventure around but has no mobility but a small studio apartment and 5steps out the door on a short leash and 2mins to poop....I understand there's alot of shity dog owners out there that shouldn't have one but why would you get one of the most athletic, energetic breeds when you yourself can hardly stand more than a few minutes let alone provide the dog with appropriate excersize. No idea what I should or could do short of just trying to casuly mention to the man this dog requires tons of excersize. He would probably just think I'm insulting his weight. I just feel so terrible every time I see this poor dog shitting in a tiny patch of mulch and I guess just need to vent. Don't really have anyone else to discuss this with. I assume the dog is better off than being in a shelter obviously but just feel so bad for the poor thing. I myself am a very active/athletic individual that would love a running partner like a husky, but this is kansas city and a husky couldn't handle a run in our summer heat, another thing that really grinds my gears every time I see a husky......should I offer to walk the dog every once and awhile? Just let it be? What would you do?
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2023.06.10 03:11 Redhead-Behaviorist Info/opinions of Kayak @ Owens Beach

Anyone have opinions of Owen’s Beach kayak rentals? Or any info as to if they rent out quick, etc? Friends and I are staying nearby in July before we go up and stay in Seattle and I was looking at fun outdoor activities to do. It’s my bachelorette party so it’s a larger group of like 10 of us, not sure if doing a few doubles and singles is an easy swing or if the rentals go fast, how hard it might be to get enough for all of us. There aren’t any good reviews online, figured I’d ask here. TIA!
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2023.06.10 03:11 jo109 Breaking a lease a week before move in

Hey internet parents, kinda freaking out rn. A few weeks ago I signed a lease for an apartment and paid the security deposit. The move in date is next week.
I am honestly regretting my decision. I’m worried I won’t have enough to make it each month especially with student loans starting up. I feel like such an idiot for this. I live at home with my parents right now and I didn’t really think about how good I had it. I know I should’ve thought this through but I just felt pressure to move out.
What would happen if I called the landlord right now and tell them I want to back out? In Ohio if that makes any difference.
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2023.06.10 03:10 Specific-Clerk1212 Next board. Where to go from here?

Hey folks, adding to the slew of gear questions with all the summer sales going on. Hope to make this one straightforward and information-filled in hopes I might get a decent response.
About me:
Just ended my first season in about a decade after moving out to Colorado. Snowboarded about 15 days in my life before that, but grew up skateboarding and surfing daily, so that helped a bit. Started my season with a Salomon Assassin that I got from Craigslist. Great board for my first season back, and plan on keeping it for laid back days, tree days, or any bit of park I may (but probably won’t) do. Mostly ride at Copper Mountain & Arapahoe Basin.
Estimated skill level:
I’d wager I’m somewhere in the intermediate camp at the end of the season. Blue runs out here are no brainers and good runs to push myself a little and practice technique. I’m comfortable on black runs, did just fine on the few double blacks I tried. Nothing too crazy though. Not catching any edges, getting more into carving, sending small-medium side hits, starting to go pretty fast (and in control) on groomers. For reference if anybody is familiar with A Basin, I’m typically lapping Lenawee and the Blue/Black side of the Zuma Bowl. Totally willing to be told I’m not intermediate based on this, or that what I’m looking for is too much board for me.
Riding style:
-I’m not really interested in park, but hunt for side hits on the trail. -Not really a switch rider, so looking for a directional board. - Starting to go faster and make solid carves, so looking for something more stable, but would like to still make some slashes and retain some maneuverability - Mostly ride groomed runs, but want to be able to deal with choppy snow better and go a bit off piste more. - I ride in trees just a little bit, but current board is great for those quick turns.
What I’m looking for:
I’m currently looking at: - Jones Frontier or Stratos - Capita Mercury - Burton Deep Thinker - Ride Algorythm
What else should I be considering? Anything here that doesn’t fit?
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2023.06.10 03:10 TopRespect8162 Landlord “Key Audits”

“Key Audit Notice” conducting this to see if their key works for the locks, reminding tenants they cannot change door locks. This management sucks, cheap, and maintenance and security is terrible, so could be tenants not paying rent and squatting? “You do not need to be home during this audit. We are simply going to knock on your door and test out the key we have for your unit. If the key works, nothing further is needed.” (Sent in email) saying they will need to create a copy of key if key does not work. Have they lost keys? Allowed to access unit at “anytime in case of emergency “. Seems a little sketch to me.
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2023.06.10 03:10 infintismel Huge fee for late notice to vacate apartment

Hi all, sorry if this is something that has been asked before.
I’m a student who recently moved out of an apartment I was paying $1582/month for (lease ended May 31) and I just received an “Insufficient Notice Penalty Charge” of $2,075.54 because I didn’t submit my notice to vacate 60 days before my lease ended. A guy from the office reached out on 5/3/23 to apologize for not reaching out and was asking if I’d like to renew, to which I said no and sent my notice in writing. He had also sent a renewal sheet that said “please let us know 30 days prior in writing if you do not plan to renew.”
In the lease it says “This Lease Contract will automatically renew month-to-month unless either party gives at least 60 days written notice of termination or intent to move-out as required by paragraph 44 (Move-Out Notice).”
I was really banking on getting my security deposit back ($1115) but now it has to be put towards this fee. My loans don’t disburse again until August so I’ll need to find another way to pay, but is there any way I could possibly get around paying this?
Would it even be possible to just talk down the cost of the fee? Any advice I’d appreciated.
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2023.06.10 03:10 WildMonkey67 Renovate or Sell

In 2020, my fiance and I bought a 3bd 2 bath single family home in a DFW suburb. Current loan value is 280K with a 3.625% rate and comparable homes in our area are selling for $400-425k.
The current layout isn't very functional and we have some wasted space. The previous owner did some "renovations" but nothing matches or flows together and kind of looks like he choose whatever materials were on sale. We've been quoted 150K to essentially restructure the common areas of the house that would include: • creating a more open floor plan • renovating master bath • renovating kitchen • More master closet space • enclosing a dedicated office space.
This would open up one of our bedrooms that we're currently using as a shared office. If we moved forward with this plan, we would likely live in the house for the next 5-7 years and then rent it out when we buy our next home. Outside of the cosmetic issues, the house not being functional is stressful and if we don't have a dedicated office space, we will outgrow the house in 2-3 years.
Is this something we should move forward with? Or does it make more sense for us to sell now and simply purchase a larger, more updated house? However, our interest rate would be a most double on a new oan and we would not have the prospect of a rental property.
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2023.06.10 03:09 moonbeamcandle Moving out tips?

Hey there.
Me and my partner are planning on moving from our Nparent's houses and living together. My area is a small hometown and I know I can't stay here. I'm thinking about us both getting an apartment together and splitting the rent or something. My life experience is low, just due to my area being rural and my nmom not allowing me to do much or learn real life skills.
How did you guys go about this? Leaving and starting life with nothing to go off of? I want to be prepared as possible.
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2023.06.10 03:09 Specialist-Prior-759 Narcissistic ex BF (36M) has been hacking and stalking me for 2 years now and won't leave me alone. Please help

I'm a 28F currently dealing with a revenge obsessed ex-boyfriend (36M) who has been stalking me online for at least 2 years now and is hell bent on destroying my life. Basically I was his first GF in 7 years at the time and prior to the girl before me who cheated on him he claimed he never had a GF except girls who thought he looked like Harry Potter in middle school. He is 36 and doesn't have a lot of experience with women so the break up is apparently still difficult for him to process even though its 3 years later and we have not spoken except me asking him profusely to stop doing this stuff.
At the time we were dating a few years ago I was dealing with some identity issues during our relationship which I was honest with him about, (identified as bisexual at the time, but was questioning my sexuality). We had some disagreements about it and he would always ask why he couldn't stay over early on in the relationship (~1 month into it). I ended up breaking things off with him after roughly 4 months because I felt like we weren't compatible and also because I had lost my job at the time and was dealing with personal issues on the side (severely depressed, was in therapy for it).
We were friends for a short time after the breakup until things started getting VERY weird. He began circling the road next to my apartment several times per hour EVERY DAY. At the time I considered it strange but had a limited knowledge of technology other than basic CS classes I had taken in the past. The internet would randomly shut off for 30 mins - 1 hour for no reason. I would later find out in the logs the router was being hit with DOS attacks several times per day.
I would also see my documents on Google Drive opened by strange usernames of fake accounts, and eventually had a remote access trojan on my laptop after he sent me photos of us through Google Photos which I suspect he used to infect my computer. He would backspace while I typed, open and close windows, click random things on the screen, and straight up mess with me for several hours per day every day for MONTHS.
Then eventually the computer crashed and would never start again. It was a $1500 Macbook Pro. My new car also mysteriously got something poured in the fuel tank and after a few weeks and several hundreds of dollars of new parts no mechanic could fix the car. My apartment was broken into repeatedly with subtle signs of forced entry but nothing stolen. Examples: Pry marks on the inside of the front door, side door and back door, personal care items like body wash, underwear or bras stolen or moved, coming home to find personal documents like medical records, tax records, and bank info layed out on my bedroom floor shuffled around. I filed police reports each time it happened but couldn't prove it was him.
My car has also been broken into a few times now with my dashcam broken off the mount, hidden under the passenger seat, stick figures taking a dump drawn on my windshield, and nails in my back tire and spare tire. I believe he put a GPS tracker on the car because I have heard someone outside opening and closing the car door but nothing was stolen. So far no mechanic has been able to find a tracker and I couldn't either.
I had to stop using the wifi at my apartment because every device I use on that network gets hacked (multiple different laptops, 2 kindles, and 3 cell phones). I found a keylogger on my M1 Macbook Pro (~$2000) which he also placed persistent malware on and I can not get rid of despite wiping the hard drive 8 times since this January. He defaced my professional website I was trying to use to get a job twice (first time put a pic of nude child and set his hacker username as my bank account number, added a redirect link which I stupidly clicked on and then it downloaded some sort of spyware or RAT onto my device, 2nd time he put up 2 women doing the deed also nude).
He has had remote access to this computer for an unknown amount of time and I can not afford to replace it. My cell phone also booted up into safe mode the next morning and the background was changed on my work/school email account. I tried taking my computer to a repair shop and they claimed if he does have a RAT on it, it is likely hidden on the recovery partition and they weren't able to find it or get it off my computer. This is a $2000 M1 Mac and he already destroyed my previous Macbook Pro which cost me $1500.
I also had to buy a new cell phone after I kept getting creepy phone calls and phishing texts from unknown numbers. When he put the new keylogger on my computer recently I saw where he made a folder which he named the digits of my new phone number. I had just bought a brand new Samsung Galaxy and he already got the new phone number for it and hacked it. He kept enabled the camera and microphone and while I was eating turned on the camera and started recorded me while I was eating. I factory reset the phone and he was still able to control the camera and mic on it.
I have reported him to the FBI IC3 unit 6 times now in the last year and now he is getting cocky about it and knows he will get away with it so he keeps doing it. He knows I am broke with no money and can't afford a new computer, to move away, or to keep buying a new cell phone every month and he seems to get off on trying to destroy my whole life. I have not spoken to him in 3 years now and we do not talk at all. I sent him a FB message telling him to stop explaining to him I have been going through a lot since my sister died a few years ago and just want to be left alone. He keeps doing it and won't stop.
He also recruited my crush who I never mentioned to him to help him with the hacking (my crush is a system admin) and now my crush won't speak to me at all and hates my guts. I have no idea what he said to my crush or how he got them to come after me but they have been going full on nuclear and won't stop. I caught him staking me out a few days ago at the gas station across from a wifi hotspot I was using where he was just sitting there for an extended period of time watching me. Then when I started drive near him he inched his truck like he was thinking about if he was going to follow me or not. He also knows when I come and go at night and drives by my apartment minutes after I get home at different times.
This guy seems to think I owe him something and has a serious problem. He just keeps doing all this and will not stop. While I am not the type of person to do anything crazy back, the police have done nothing and in terms of the hacking there is not a lot they can do. What can I do to at least expose this guy. I don't think he is ever going to stop until he kills me and this has got to stop.
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2023.06.10 03:09 Individual-Way7927 I (28M) split with my ex (27F) after years of her having affairs on me, but I forgave her at the time. Do I share the evidence publicly or no, when my reputation is being hit?

Hi all. I (28M) am doing my best to keep a level head, and not do anything rash.
The massively condensed story is that: I was engaged to a girl (27F, engagement in 2020, eight year long relationship) whom I thought was absolutely perfect in evert way. Shortly after COVID started, she had an affair on me when I was medically incapacitated (separate medical issue that had me extra depressed due to feeling handicapped for almost eight months) - I had no idea in the moment, and said affair lasted almost a full year until the affair partner dropped her for another woman. The story of how I found out is wild, and it may be possible I never would have known if I didn't connect dots- I'm too frustrated to expand on this for this post. I have never experienced pain like that heartbreak, and my whole world turned upside down, I was devastated, my concept of trust was completely and totally broken, I truly wondered how anyone could be so evil to do what she had done to me.
I was prepared to leave, she begged me for forgiveness, and after two nights of thinking about "whether I respect myself, or if I love her more than I respect myself," I decided to stay. Both of her parents died when she was a child. It isn't an excuse, but I told myself that if I wanted to be "a good man," I could try to make it work. The following year was not very productive. I made her go to therapy, and in hindsight, should have made us do couples therapy. Marriage delayed for this reason.
I had no idea that she was talking badly about me to all of her friends at the time, but lo and behold, about a year later, I discovered that she was cheating on me AGAIN. I know what you are all thinking, and yes, I know- I am an idiot, I am a loser, I am stupid, I know all of those things, I felt humiliated, used, and could have avoided it all if I left the first time.
I spent a month on my own outside of the apartment and convinced myself that: Because I didn't try couples therapy, there was more I could do. I admit that I did work A LOT during COVID, and my ex was lonely, I know that the first year post-affair, instead of being fully accepting, I would make comments out of spite, I would hold it over her head, my hatred was mixing with my attempts to re-establish our relationship. I found every reason why I wasn't a good enough partner, and made a commitment: I knew it was insane, it was crazy, but I wanted to truly be "a good man," and try, this time, to do the rebuilding the right way. Only showing love, never making snide remarks, trying to take initiative with dates and gifts, being super communicative about my needs and everything I personally had done wrong, I got a list from her about the things she felt were insufficient in the relationship, and I worked on every single one of them to have long-term changes.
I honest-to-god feel like I threw my ego, humiliation, and brain out the door, and was the best partner anyone could have asked for in the last year. I rejected a job opportunity that would have put my work-life balance out of schedule; I did 90% of the cooking and cleaning, I went to therapy on my own, and tried to get my ex to communicate with me more, to do couples therapy, I begged her to tell me the truth and come to me openly, that I would have a therapist act as a mediator if she could not, etc. etc. I got new hobbies to spend time with her, I would take her to get constant pedicures and manicures to show initiation, to try and make her feel prettier, I would try constantly to reflect on every mistake I knew I made, and make a reasonable effort to show long-term improvement. I took my fitness super seriously again and always tried to console my partner when she told me how she didn't feel beautiful because of her weight gain.
Recently, I learned that, in my month-long absence, when I was re-evaluating my life, my ex was telling her friends that I was an abuser, that I got mad because "she DM'd a guy," and to this day, it never ended.
Reddit: I know. I am fucking stupid. I am an absolute fucking loser. I have never shared what happened to me to anyone except my brother after the first affair, and after the second instance of cheating that I discovered, I shared it with two friends. I would tell them that I don't believe my ex was a bad person- I know there were things I could do better, etc. No one in my circle would ever dare to speak ill about my ex because I would defend her even in my darkest moments. I failed a suicide attempt in that month-long period.
My ex and I recently split, and it was because I was tipped off from a friend of hers that decided to have a conscience, that my ex was planning on leaving. The leaving is not an issue; I know that anyone can leave for any reason, and I respect it. But I felt fucking even more humiliated because, after a year of me pouring my heart out, pushing my ego aside, to try and pamper a woman who had multiple affairs on me, with belief that only an environment of love could truly fix this relationship, I didn't care that she was leaving, what I cared was how she didn't even have the gall to tell me directly. I confronted her about it on my own.
I want to reiterate that I understand I am the world's stupidest fucking person. I spent thousands of dollars, hundreds of hours of my time, years of my life, and I could have ended this the first time, almost two years ago, when I found out the first time.
My ex wants to maintain a friendly relationship, but I truly believe, at this point, it is just because she doesn't want her friends and family, let alone others, to know what she did to me. I have held it in for so long, I went to therapy, there are EXACTLY 3 people who I told, who will carry it to the grave.
I truly believe that unless my ex feels accountable for her actions, she will never change. It is hard to "do nothing and be successful," as the greatest revenge, because I know for a fact that her friends bad mouth me, call me names, and it makes me want to pull my hair out because I did nothing to deserve the slander. This city is relatively small. I have an extensive library of screenshots, texts, photos, the whole nine yards that would absolutely devastate my ex if it was publicized.
I wouldn't need to say a single word- it wouldn't be my word versus hers, it would simply be her words versus the "evidence."
I feel like I need to share the intimate details with her remaining family, and maybe her friends (remember, parents died when she was young). I feel as though if they know, she will feel a fraction of what I felt, knowing that her secret is out.
I could go nuclear revenge, send it to her boss, send it to every friend who talked shit about me, post it to her socials in the middle of the night, but I just don't know if that is what my conscience, despite all of this, would allow me to do.
I will be moving out in a few days, with a new job, into a new area, to start my life anew. I am learning to respect myself and to move on. What should I do, Reddit? Do I keep these humiliating experiences to myself (of course, restart therapy), but do I not publicize it, despite knowing I'm being called an abuser by people who know nothing about what I have been through? Despite knowing her family thinks I am the cause for the lack of movement with said engagement?
It honestly hurts. I feel like I have been stabbed in the back so many times, but every time, I cleaned the blade off and tried to take care of the person who stabbed me.
Throwaway account for obvious reasons. Once again, I know that I am a bitch, a loser, a cuckboy, a fucking idiot, all of those things. I hope no one ever has to go through the pain of what I went through. And for anyone who recently discovered their partner cheating on them- just leave. Don't try to fix it. I don't want you to ever be as much of a mess as I am. Leave, respect yourself, if you don't respect yourself, no one ever will. I didn't respect myself, and I paid the fucking price.
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2023.06.10 03:08 beggarmantheif it's nothing but guilt

i can't talk to anyone around me about this because i should be over it by now, but I'm not. why should I be? i humiliated and abused him because i couldn't fix myself. because i didn't know myself. because i would've rather made someone else feel small and pathetic than to admit that that is all i am. why is it so hard for the people around me to understand that i can't forgive myself because i am a monster?
i feel like a poison. i feel like a sickness at the thought of making friends or getting a job and being apart of society because I am a parasite. why would i allow myself to be apart of people's lives? i don't deserve such kindness. i deserve death. i deserve to be of ash, even the soil wouldn't thrive on my flesh.
i deleted Instagram ages ago. even though i never felt compelled to speak to him again, i disposed of it anyway. rid of any possible temptation. i thought communicating with him, even a proper apology, would just re-traumatize him. i couldn't risk that. that's a risk i couldn't dream of happening.
i looked him in the eyes last night. he just passed me by. we saw each other. i was more than happy to never see him again and i don't doubt he felt the same. there's no mistaking it was actually him.
throughout all of this i actually thought about this seriously: what am i doing here? why haven't i tried to die? there's nothing but doom if i stay here. no one would vouch for me to stay. who would want an abusive ex to live? even i want to die.
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2023.06.10 03:07 Content-Weird-5169 In-depth analysis of the universe system in "Three-Body 3"(3)

  1. Why does the "mass loss" of the large universe cause the "universe expansion speed" to become faster and faster?
The ultimate fate of the universe depends on the amount of matter: if the matter density exceeds the critical density, the expansion of the universe will eventually stop and reverse to contraction, eventually forming a "big crunch" (big crunch) opposite to the Big Bang; if the matter density If it is equal to or lower than the critical density, the universe will continue to expand.
And civilization builds a "small universe" and escapes from the original "big universe", which will make the "matter density" of the big universe lower and lower, so the expansion speed of the universe will become faster and faster.
  1. Do all universes end up "expanding faster and being ripped apart"?
No, only the universe infected by "life" will come to this end. That's why Liu Cixin asked, "Is nature really natural?" This is a hallmark feature of a universe infested with "life". An uninfected universe might expand, it might collapse, or it might stay the same.
  1. Is there a large universe that is not bound by the dark forest theory?
    have: One, it is the kind of macrocosm that is not infected by life. The second is the great universe of the pastoral era. In that era, the universe had not expanded so much, and the speed of light was close to infinity, so there were no barriers to communication between civilizations, and the chain of suspicion could not be formed, so the state of the dark forest could not be formed. . The third is that the quantum communication terminal equipment is filled in the universe of every star system in the whole big universe in advance. Moreover, there is no quantum communication blind zone in such a universe.
  2. Is the black fog and the small universe contradictory?
Answer: The black mist is not contradictory to the small universe. Because, 1, the small universe is not inside the big universe, (see the dialogue on page 500 in the book "Three-Body 3"). Therefore, the "black fog" is only effective for locked-up civilizations in this universe, not for civilizations in other universes. 2. Civilization locked up by the black mist cannot create high technology, so it is impossible to talk about creating a small universe. Creating a microcosm requires enormous energy and space. The energy of the small star system locked up by the black mist is far from enough.
8. Since the large universe of the pastoral age has all the conditions to get rid of the law of the dark forest (the scale of the large universe is not as large as that of the later ones, the speed of light is close to infinite, there is no obstacle to communication between civilizations, and since there are no high-dimensional fragments, there is no obstacle to quantum communication , the suspicion chain cannot be formed), then why did this big universe degenerate into a dark forest? Was its fall inevitable, or accidental? Is there a hint in Liu Cixin's "Three-Body Problem 3"?
answer: The degradation of the macrocosm infected by life is inevitable. The pastoral age is short-lived. There are hints in Liu Cixin's "Three-Body Problem 3". See pages 273-274 of the book: "In the past, the sea around the kingdom was not called the Gluttonous Sea. At that time, there were no gluttonous fish in the sea, and ships could sail freely on the sea... At that time, there were several prosperous cities in the kingdom, and the surroundings of the palace were not forests and fields, but a prosperous capital..." What is described here is the peaceful scene of the pastoral age. At that time, the big universe was not a dark forest ("The surroundings of the palace are not forests and fields").
The reasons for the degeneration of the big universe, Liu Cixin actually wrote very clearly, see page 274 in "Three-Body 3": "But one day a merchant ship from Mosken, Helsingen, brought a curious little fish, finger-long, black, unremarkable, in a hard cast-iron bucket. … ...this kind of fish is called gluttonous fish." It was the gluttonous fish that destroyed the peace of the pastoral era of the great universe. The glutton fish has three characteristics: 1, "growth in dark pools deep in the Mosken cave in Helsingen"; 2, "packed in hard cast iron buckets"; 3, its teeth and fins are very sharp (see " Three-Body Problem 3, page 274).
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2023.06.10 03:06 Ray_Butta Laptop is falling apart. Cheap, reliable options for the bar exam?

Title. I’m unsurprised but sad. This laptop got me through undergrad and all of law school, but the screen is now literally coming off when I open it and I don’t want to risk it deciding to blue screen mid exam.
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2023.06.10 03:06 Available_Nail5129 Signed lease now see a bunch of issues

We just got our keys a few days ago and instantly see issues. When we intially saw the property it was tenant occupied so a lot of the issues were hidden. For example, all the blinds are broken and missing pieces. The bottom of the kitchen blinds have bite marks in them. We didn't see this because when we walked through all the windows were open. The patio door is broken and doesn't lock. There is a whole in the garage wall. We didn't see that because the previous tenant car was in the way. The tub is chipped/cracked and we didn't see that because the tenant had a mat in the tub. Also, the toilet paper holder is broken. We also have an exposed outlet and the laundry closet doors are completely broken and off the hinges. We are so stressed and don't know what to do. We called the realtor and asked for our landlord number and email and he has yet to give it to us. Throughout the whole process we only dealt with the realtor and I have texts going back and forth asking when we will meet the landlord etc. We don't even know how to pay our utilies or rent. We paid everything through the realtor. Are we stuck with this? Or what is our recourse?
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2023.06.10 03:06 PurgeTrooperX38 Issues with our 11 year old chug after moving

Ok so my gf recently moved into a new apartment, and ever since then her dog has been having some issues, she's peeing alot ,she's bleeding out her cootchie but it's not her time of the month, and she's tender to being picked up, she's not in the best financial place so the vet isn't really a option and she's considering giving her up solely so she can get attention she seems to need, anyone have any knowledge about this situation or any way for me to help her out?
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2023.06.10 03:06 fleettreat Are cockroaches unavoidable?

Specifically in Manhattan. The building I'm looking at renting from has a lot of reviews on google complaining about roaches. Should this be a huge red flag or something I need to be prepared for no matter where I live?
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2023.06.10 03:04 OrangeMint1-2 What would you choose? long commute or moving to a new place

Good Friday all,
I just got a match with a job for the next term September to December. This job requires in-person attendance (not sure if it's at least 3 days a week I think, or every day from Monday to Friday).
I currently rent a place near TNT supermarket. 600/month, the house is old but it has a lot of space, near a supermarket and my roommates are not bad. It's about 9 km away from the company and it will take 50 min to 1 hour by bus, 40 mins by bike or 24 mins by car for my place to the company.
I don't have a driver's licence thus I will not consider driving. I am not sure if I can ride a bike or use e-scooters during winter, I assume that the road condition will be awful due to snow and ice. I don't want dangerous and painful commuting.
My options will be
1) find a new place that's near my company.
2) ride a bike or a e-scooters which costs about half an hour to commute. (could be slower due to road conditions)
3) take the bus which costs 55 mins to commute.
Which one would you prefer? Is it even possible to ride a bike or e-scooter during winter?
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2023.06.10 03:04 chiboulevards Girlboss invooster

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2023.06.10 03:03 Own-Cap-5747 A month ago I baited wood traps and the next day caught a rat. I left the other traps alone with the original bait of peanut butter and chocolate chip cookies. It rained yesterday, and I found a tiny turd. Do I have to put fresh bait out, or just wait ?

We have had a dry year in Washington. My rat came in when it rained. Look, I think I can just let it go and they will work. My friend says the same, that they are not picky and stale food is not a turn off for rats . I believe some folks would eat a cookie left out for a month. I would not, but I am very fastidious. I live in an apartment and the hole is behind a water heater that no one can get to.
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