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2023.06.10 01:47 Booboojules 6-Month-Old Weight Concern?

Hi all! I have a chonker of a 6 MO girl. When she was born, she was 8 lbs exactly. Her 6-month appointment is in two weeks so we’ll get an update of her weight then, but at her 4 month she was 15 lbs 5 oz, and I think she already gained much more since then. I weighed her on our scale for fun, where I held her and then I stepped on myself. I know they’re not super accurate for babies but it was showing roughly 18 lbs!!
She is breastfed all day until at night when I give her some formula. This is just a routine we’ve done when I was still fixing my supply, and I do pump afterwards. My concern is that I might be over feeding her, but she gulps it down, and I believe I’m doing paced feeding correctly. There is never any spit up, and I can’t notice any other symptoms of overfeeding. But for months she’s just been gaining weight so quickly.
At her 4 month appointment, her pediatrician wasn’t concerned at all. She is in the high 80s/low 90s percentiles for height and head circumference, and I believe she was 67% for weight and 40% for height-to-weight or whatever it’s called (and that was a huge jump from single digits from her 2 month).
Sorry for the long story. Anyways, my question is- does anyone have kiddos who went through the same thing? I love my Roly-Poly little bean; I just don’t want to set her up for failure if this is abnormal. If anyone else has gone through this, I’ll feel so much better.
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2023.06.10 01:47 lostinthewhirlwind23 day 3 / 20 hrs i feel like getting one

i want to scream! my body genuinely already feels better from not vaping, it’s probably the placebo effect cause it’s only been 3 full days but even still, mentally i feel already so much better, and yet i’m having this urge. in my head i keep telling myself that i should just get a relapse out of the way while i’m still so early on??? i know how backwards that is, and i don’t even know if me automatically thinking i’ll have a relapse means i wasn’t as committed as i thought?? idek im coming up with all kinds of excuses, but i’m so tempted to get one, hit it a few times, set back my clock, and throw it out. i feel like the guilt will make me never do it again, but idek that’s like an excuse too. eating has helped, but it doesn’t feel like enough right now and all the eating is starting to get me really down on myself after always having a smaller appetite.
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2023.06.10 01:47 Polly-52221977 No passion left

I (32M) have two kids aged 8 and 6. I play bass and guitar, played around with synths sometimes too. I was in bands in high school and a semi serious band in my early 20s. Now with work and kids and limited space in my house, I never get to play music anymore. My friends I used to jam with have moved away and I don’t really know anyone else to play with. I feel like I haven’t touched my instruments in years and it’s turned into a game of emotional chicken lol. I don’t want to play because it makes me sad that I don’t practice and don’t have a band. Not playing makes me sad and feel like I should sell my instruments. They are expensive guitars and basses that I could get good money for (and help my family financially in a tough time). Anyone else experience anything like this?
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2023.06.10 01:46 Royal-Ad3652 Please please please help

Hello. I (16M, I really hope) and struggling with what I believe to be TOCD.
For background, I was diagnosed with OCD a year ago, but I can recall having obsessive thoughts about random things since childhood.
My most recent (and BY FAR the worst theme I’ve ever experienced) is TOCD. I’ve had this theme before, but it was to a much smaller degree. At this time, though, I feel absolutely awful. I spend nearly the entire day trying to figure out whether I’m trans, and honestly, my mind is so clouded that I really don’t know. I do know, at least, that I absolutely do not want to be trans - but I don’t know if that’s because I’m scared or the societal backlash and difficulties that comes with being trans, or because I’ll actually be unhappy as a girl. I really don’t know. Whenever I’m out in public, when I see a woman, I ask myself if I’d like to be her or not, but I can’t come up with a definitive answer, so it just makes me feel awful. And when I think about my past, my memory fails itself, and I can find little answers confirming or denying this this obsession.
(Slight NSFW in this following paragraph) Finally, what terrified me earlier and prompted me to write this post was that, after seeing a video involving a woman having her butt groped by a man, the thought + feeling that I wanted to be her popped into my head. This thought felt so extremely real and it TERRIFIED me - so much so that I had to compulse just to get in an okay enough mind space to ask for help.
I’m so scared. I want these thoughts to go away, and I just want to be happy as a boy. I’m so, extremely scared. I really hope this is just TOCD so that theres a chance these thoughts can go away. Please, any help would be greatly greatly appreciated. Thank you
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2023.06.10 01:46 iminthewittygabity Greened out first time ever last night.. Need some motivation during my recovery

Smoked for my first time yesterday and took a edible all around took almost 400mg possibly more, Had the worst trip of my life and felt completely trapped in my own head and almost called 911 a couple of times before just laying down and falling asleep, Woke up napped and woke back up and i've still got thoughts that i'm trapped in my head just not as vivid and only occasionally, I just want to know when this will go away i've been exercising and drinking water as it helps clear my mind but i still feel it occasionally and i just want to know if anybody else has a story they can share to cheer me up and get me in the right mental headspace because here and there i get thoughts that this will never go away. (Also i’ve been twitching occasionally if that can help with a response, For some reason my mind tells me it’s not the weed it’s me and that scares me)
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2023.06.10 01:46 Birbboips4 A Familiar Face Pt. 3

??: You will not win.
Mia is running through a long hallway with a shadow chasing her. She slams her body through a set of double doors, which leads to a giant pit that she falls in.
???: You can try to run, but you won't escape me.
Mia keeps falling before landing on soild ground. She hears the voice from all over.
Mia: Who...who are you?
???: I go by many names. You may call me
The person walks out of the shadows, looking exactly like Githinji but with blue eyes and blue fire instead of red.
???: The Corrupt.
He reaches out towards Mia.
The Corrupt: And you're my next target.
Mia jolts awake, breathing heavily and sweating. She immediately jumps out of bed and runs to the bathroom. She splashes her face with water multiple times and looks at herself in the mirror for a few minutes. After she calms down, she showers and dresses herself. When she walks out the bathroom, she pauses to look at Trunks. She hesitates but goes over to him.
Mia: Honey?
Trunks: Hm?
Mia: Do you want to go out somewhere? I need some time to feel better.
Trunks: Of course. Where do you want to go?
Mia: Anywhere works really.
Trunks: Gotcha.
*Mia and Trunks go out to the living room. Rikain and Nina have already left, Lucina holding a note from them that says how they had to get back to their time before their father got worried. The only one who hasn't awoken is Grovyle, but they leave him be and go on their walk.
Lucina: This is nice. We haven't gotten to spend much time together know.
Silver: Yeah I misses hanging out with you guys. I'm glad you're feeling better Mia.
Mia: Thanks.
Trunks: So, what do you guys wanna do here?
Silver: Ice cream!
Silver floats over to the ice cream stand. The other 3 roll their eyes and follow him to the stand. Meanwhile, back at the house, Grovyle is woken up by a crying Rose. He goes to investigate, and finds The Corrupt in the room. He immediately uses Leaf Blade and swings at the Corrupt, who disappears into the shadows.
Grovyle: Who are you? What are you doing here?
The Corrupt: I am the Corrupt, and you seem like a nice appetizer.
The Corrupt comes out of the shadows from behind Grovyle, pulling him back and engulfing him in the shadows. When he releases Grovyle, his personality is completely changed. Like a heartless version of himself.
The Corrupt: Go my child. Kill them.
Corrupted Grovyle: Yes, father.
Back at the mall, Lucina and Trunks are still eating their ice cream. Mia is resting on Trunks's shoulder while Silver is on a sugar rush. Suddenly people start screaming and running in the opposite direction. Seeing this, the Saviors grab their weapons and head towards the danger. They find Corrupted Grovyle wreaking havoc.
Trunks: Grovyle? What are you doing?
Corrupted Grovyle:...
Grovyle suddenly leaps forwards at Trunks, who dodges the attack. Before he can react, Grovyle turns back around and slices Trunks with leaf blade, knocking him back.
Trunks: AAAH!
Mia: Trunks!
Grovyle turns his focus to Lucina and Silver and jumps at them. Silver steps in front of Lucina and tries to use his telekinesis but nothing happens.
Silver: What the?
Grovyle backhands Silver into the shadows and starts to attack Lucina. Right before she is pushed into the shadow, Mia and Trunks attack Grovyle, knocking him off balance. He jumps at them, but they easily dodge. However instead of turning around, he goes to the shadows where he threw Silver. He stands there for a few seconds until Silver walks out. However this Silver is different. This Silver is tinted in a red color, reminiscent of Githinji's hellfire. This Silver is seemingly ready to kill anything and everything in his path, just like Grovyle. They are...corrupted.
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2023.06.10 01:46 PestilentMonk93 29[M4F] AZ/Anywhere Anyone else looking for a new friend? Or just a conversation for the evening?

A bit about me, I'm a 29M. Autistic. I'm a huge nerd. I love science, tech, games, anime haha. All the normal things. I also love horror. Being scared is something I seek out, because it's fun knowing you're in no real danger but getting spooked anyway. Stephen King is my favorite author, and The Dark Tower is such an amazing series I rarely have an opportunity to talk about. So if you like it too please come nerd out with me. I absolutely adore info bombs about people's special interests. Anytime someone is passionate about something I want to hear it. I used to be a musician. I played classical music on the stand up bass and guitar.
The more serious and boring things about me are the I have chronic health issues. I'm 5'6, and chubby. Also Hispanic. Politically I am very, very left leaning and don't get along with people who believe human rights are up for discussion and debate. Also, I'm not the kind of person who enjoys being left on read, or checking in once a week. If we're friends that means we are part of eachothers lives and should act as such. If none of that is an issue and you agree please message your asl, some neat facts about yourself, or even your worst joke. I won't respond to empty profiles or a simple "hey" there's nothing to say to that.
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2023.06.10 01:45 Intrepid_Cobbler_770 Saw a Shadow Figure when I was 12 years old.

Okay so, here is just some background notes before I get into the meat of this story: This took place at a friend of mine's house when I was in middle school. My parents were friends with my friend's parents. I was spending the night over at his (my friend) family house. We were running around playing tag/hide and seek outside the house from the evening up to even after it got dark. However, the neighborhood was well-lit due to street lights. Now the creepy part: I turned around and was counting up to 50 before beginning my search for my friend. After I turned around I slowly began walking down the driveway and looked to my right to see a 3-dimensional shadow figure with no neck peering out at me. I could make out a head, one shoulder, and a bit of their torso. I immediately freaked the f*** out and screamed and told my friends family. They denied and said it was just my imagination. But when I got home and told my parents, they both looked at each other in bewilderment before telling me that my friends uncle hanged himself in the garage of that house (explaining the weird no neck-ness of the shadow figure). My parents were freaked out as well because they had never told me about this and I basically brought it out of them to tell me what most likely caused this whole ordeal. Looking back on this experience I feel that the ghost was just watching over us and not in any malicious way, though at the time I had the sh!t scared out of me 😅.
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2023.06.10 01:45 CrocodileWoman Anybody benefit from a good cry session?

The last couple of years have shown me how much I repress my “””negative””” emotions in front of others. However, I cry SO easily when upset, and that often makes people think I’m weak or I’m trying to manipulate them. Not the case, I just don’t know how to stop the tears mid sentence.
I am now learning I need to Schedule “crying time” 🥲 usually when no one is home for at least an hour. it’s so embarrassing but I feel so much lighter after. It also helps me process some of the events that give me anxiety or cause me to ruminate. Does anyone else do the same? And do you have techniques to do this without crying? I am heading to work and I won’t have time to cry it out until tomorrow …
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2023.06.10 01:45 BlueishGreenBroccoli i am quitting. then i will have nothing.

im only 22. i went to school for two and a half years to become a nurse. i thought being a nurse was what i wanted to do. i’ve been working since october and i can honestly say that i would rather kill my self than go to another shift. my parents look at me as a failure, and have told me so. they also told me in a disappointment and i cant seem to shake it out of my head that all i am meant to do is die. i feel like a failure. this is what i’ve wanted my entire life and now i can’t do it. i am not strong enough. im not strong enough or good enough to be alive. my parents hate me because i am a lesbian, they talk shit about me behind my back; to my friends and family. everyday i feel like i get worse, i am feeling worse, i am worse. im letting down my patients, my family, myself. i have nothing and no one. im empty and im alone. this is it. please help me.
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2023.06.10 01:44 Ifearacage [Newbie] Playing the F major chord in bluegrass

Any bluegrass guitar players here? If so, how do you play your F major chord? I’m trying to learn it as a partially barred chord, but it is really kicking my ass. The bluegrass players I know in my local circle say they just refuse to play F, lol.
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2023.06.10 01:43 Phanty210 Does anyones head feel so light like a balloon acompanied with dizzyness and burning and stinging?

Head feels very light and stinging in head like a balloon and my body feels very light like im floating
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2023.06.10 01:43 spacecowboy1711 Diablo 4 appreciation thread

Diablo 4 appreciation thread
Allow me to preface this by saying that I've been playing on PS5 since launch day in Australia (which I assume means I'm in an Oceanic server), and have not had a single issue with disconnections or wait times so far. It's been a smooth experience day or night. I'm rolling a level 35 Rogue in WT2 and am halfway through Act 3.
I've been seeing a lot of whinging and moaning in this sub, particularly around endgame. And most of the whinging appears to be coming from people who have already played 100+ hours, rushed the campaign and have been grinding helltides for days.
This thread is to show some appreciation for how great this game is. It may be shocking and unsettling for some people to hear this, but a significant portion of the fanbase don't give a shit about min-maxing OR endgame. Some people simply like to immerse themselves in the world, enjoy the campaign, admire the solid writing and cutscenes (seriously Blizzard, bravo, massive step up from D3), and try out different builds and have... wait for it... FUN. And do you know where most of these people are? Not on this sub. They're out in the wild having a good time and are blissfully unaware of all the complaining.
As a solo player, do I wish there was an offline mode? Obviously. Has it affected my enjoyment of the game so far? Not at all. But I do hope they add this down the line.
Do I wish there were more stash tabs? No. I couldn't care less. I've filled about 2 rows with gems in my first tab. Do I wish there was a gem bag? Well... yes I do. It's a bit annoying having them sit in your inventory and needing to go to your stash just to dump them.
Will I spend hundreds of hours in endgame? No. I'll likely finish the campaign, get to level 50 or something, play around in WT3 for a bit and then start a brand new character for fun.
I'm in no way a hardcore player. I started with D3 on release and put about 60 hours into it as a Barb. Came back for Reaper of Souls and put another 70 hours in as a Sorc and Monk. I did not touch endgame or Rifts. I did a single playthrough of D2R as a sorc and loved it but god damn it was harder than D3.
Diablo 4 is the best of both D2 and D3. The return to form for the art style is just so... damn... good. The difficulty is just right on WT2 so far, and the open world is gorgeous.
So if you're like me and are having blast with the game then show some appreciation in here. What character are you rolling? Are you playing solo or with a group? How do you compare it to D2 and D3?
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2023.06.10 01:43 PeterP211 Belmont Stakes dress code

Hi, my father and I are heading to the Stakes tomorrow for the first time. We have seats in the Reserved sections. The website seems to give conflicting or vague info on dress code (“recommended”, “strongly recommended”, etc). Other sites I’ve checked just seem to copy the site verbatim.
Anyway, I called Guest Services today and the rep said no dress code as long as we aren’t hitting restaurants or the clubhouse. My father wanted to go in jeans, sneakers, and long sleeved collared shirt. Just want to make sure we’re good to go and not turned away or something silly like that.
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2023.06.10 01:42 SOULSTEALERX91 Ex refusing to let me see my child

Hi everyone this is a very confusing situation so I will try to keep it as clear as possible, I am on mobile so I am sorry for terrible formatting. I have a ten year old son with my ex partner (we separated 8 years ago) We have a court order in place to decide what days his father has him and what days are mine, he lives with me mostly. 9 weeks ago I got into an argument with my son and he tripped over and bumped his head on the banister when I told him to go to his room, everything was fine and all he had was a barely noticeable bruise. He went to his father's on Friday evening as normal and the next morning social services show up at my door saying there has been an allegation that i hit my son and left a mark, this isint the first time my son has said something like this (he seems to enjoy the extra attention). Anyway it was all investigated by the social services and the police and I was cleared of any wrongdoing however my ex is refusing to let me see my son. The social have said I can have him back living with me but they can't do anything to actually bring him back, the school have for some reason named his father as the primary carer and won't even let me pick him up without the fathers permission. I have always been his primary caregiver, the social services team have spoken to the school and his father and neither will budge their position. His father has blocked all contact with me and has taken my sons phone from him. I have the original court order saying what days he should be with me but I can't seem to do anything with it. Is there anything I can do to get my son back? I havent seen him in so long and they are blocking all attempts to contact him Any advice would be really helpful
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2023.06.10 01:42 SkinnyButJiggy Hoping it's not too late?

I'm at the turning point of my mid-20s and feeling like I'm drowning in the middle if the ocean. I graduated with my Bachelors in Organizational Communications back in 2019, got into real estate for the first 8ish months of Covid, and transitioned into the cannabis industry from there. Worked bottom-up and am in a management position for one of the highest-profiting dispensaries/brands in the state. However, I'm making about 32k a year plus tips (still under 35k).
I have applied to other jobs/careers that I felt fell into my studies a little better, but I haven't received any opportunities for anything else. The cannabis industry is a huge cesspool of ego, ignorance and entitlement that I feel is getting capped out by the OG's and the rich people backing them.
I've been wanting to transition into a new industry that would give me more opportunity to grow both professionally and financially. As that point in my life where making and securing for a family is starting to come into the light, so I feel this is something I can no longer let "go with the flow".
For context, I was one of those kids who grew up playing sports very heavily. 3 sport athlete throughout high-school, and kind of put all my eggs into one basket thinking that I was gonna go pro one day. Just an example: I tried to get a job juniosenior year of hs at Buffalo wild wings to start making money/learning finance when my father told me, "Anything that you absolutely need for sports I will make sure that you have, anything else is a distraction that you don't need. You're a teenager with parents and a roof over your head, what do you need extra money for?"
I've gotten really into skiing/the outdoors lately, so one of the avenues I was thinking about going was starting my EMT journey to be able to Ski patrol in the winter, and become a firefighter for the bulk of the year. I know my degree won't have much use in this, but it's a physical job that gives much reward and you do get taken care of. My mother is a charge nurse in the ER , so I know the job comes with a lot of stresses and trauma, I believe that the purpose of the work and attitudes of others help get through those times.
I've also been thinking about going to work for UPS, and trying to finish my masters in something compatible with my current degree and growing from there. There was a local job posting yesterday that would pay 20k more than my current pay, plus all the benefits that come with being a UPS employee. I feel like people don't take education seriously these days until you have a masters anyway, and part of me also thinks an extra year or so of school would be good for myself.
Any help/advice would be appreciated... I know this is a very individualistic situation, I'm mostly wondering what could/would provide the most value/greatest gain at this point in my life. I hope yall have had a great day, and a wonderful weekend ahead!
TL:DR: Washed up athlete with a college degree looking for ways to financially succeed and not knowing what to do next.
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2023.06.10 01:42 bubblymeanie Why do grandparents love their grandkids?

If this seems like a very odd question to you, you're exactly who I want to hear from! I grew up with physically and verbally abusive parents, and did not experience having grandparents. I do know that logically my parents love me but I never felt that love growing up and somehow its just led to me being very confused when I see doting grandparents in social media, in my head I don't get how you can have so much love for someone who is not even technically your kid, its your kid's kid. I saw a video on youtube of a great grandmother bursting into tears seeing the new born baby and it was even MORE confusing - how can she have so much love and emotion. If any grandparents want to explain I'd love to hear from you too
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2023.06.10 01:42 Uludug Rant about the divine ingenuity event and the state of this version overall, perspective of an ar 60 player

Hey everyone. I have been playing this game since launch with very little breaks between. However, this version is the least active I have ever been, and it is simply saddening. I wanted to list my personal opinions on why that is and just generally want to comment on this version. Sorry for any language mistakes in advance since english is not my first language.

1. Factor: The story experience (or the lack thereof)

In terms of story, what did we get this version? We got
-Yoimiya quest
-Kaveh hangout
-Event story
These quest contribute little to nothing to the overarching story of the game and at this point honestly feel like a chore with how long they take. It's, in my opinion, not fun to sit through hours of dialogue (Which is only increased by paimon repeating everything) only interrupted by the occasional "Walk 50 metres" or "Wait 2 days" objective. This is not fun gameplay. Don't get me wrong, I love the characters and I love the story of the game, but it is supplied in the most monotone and mundane of ways imaginable.

2. Factor: The disappointing excuse of a main event

I consider myself a player that actually enjoys the tcg. Always liked card games but centering the whole Version around it? It wasn't even the main event when it first launched. It feels disappointing when looking at some of the great main events we've had in the past and feels like a slap in the face to the players who've been actively supporting the game. The event is literally just "Play cards".

3. Factor: The disappointment of divine ingenuity

So, after not playing for some days due to the disappointment of the main event, I come back and see the event divine ingenuity. Then I discover that they've expanded the options a lot, it's no longer just a jump and run. Instantly, so many ideas started forming in my head: "We can finally do damage tests in a controlled area!" "I can finally design fun and challenging combat challenges for my friends to try!". I was overjoyed at the possibilities. That's until I realised, how dumb and broken this system is. My gripes with the system are:
-A very limited selection of enemies
Honestly, the variety of enemies we have at our disposal is a joke. We have like 4 bosses.
-A very limited amount of enemies
I get that this is intended to not cause performance issues but honestly: Can't genshin candle more than like 8 normal enemies on screen? And also, if you're concerned about lower end devices, just limit the amount of enemies on the screen at once, not the total number of enemies per area.
-Very limited customization of the enemies
This speaks for itself. Beyond a special effect for a few enemies and a very limited range of levels, you can change nothing about them.
-You cannot use your own builds
Who? Who came up with this idea? Trial characters are there for newer players so how hard would it have been to include an option for "Players can use their own builds"? And before you say that you can just give them some xp to level them up, their talents are still at level 8 and you cannot let them use your artifacts. This limits the potential so incredibly much it's dumb.
However, my biggest issue with the event is the following:
-When the event ends, all your domains disappear and cannot be played.
Even when they inevitably bring back the event some versions down the road. you cannot access your old domains? Why not? This makes all the effort that goes into building a domain seem utterly pointless. Honkai star rail literally got the feature to play old events after it's first version. And if you're concerned about the space the event takes up on mobile devices, here's a crazy thought: Make it optional.

Overall, this version feels like the most filler version we've ever gotten and is not fun to play on at the moment. So many issues that could be easily fixed simply aren't being fixed and it is incredibly frustrating.
Thank you for listening to my little rant about this version. Please, feel free to state your own opinion on the version, everyone can learn form everyones opinions.
A loyal ar 60 player annoyed by the state of this version.
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2023.06.10 01:41 Piratedad83 [USA-CO] [H] Nintendo Games and Consoles: NES, SNES, N64, Gamecube, Wii, Wii U, Switch, Gameboy, Gameboy Color, Gameboy Advance, DS, 3DS [W] Paypal

List has been updated with additional SNES, N64, and Gamecube games. Paring down some parts of my collection. Happy to post pics of anything that you might be interested in. Shipping is $5 for the first game or 2, and then goes up from there as needed. Shipping for consoles will be around $15, depending on where you live.
Check out my Playstation games post here (with new PS3 games added):
Check out my Sega and Xbox games here:
NES (Cartridge Only)
NES console, power cable, AV cable, controller $80 (I have 2 bundles available)
Racket Attack $5
SNES (Cartridge Only)
Acme Animation Factory $15
Championship Pool $5
Claymates $15
Final Fantasy II $60
King of the Monsters $15
Legend of Zelda: A Link to the Past $40
Lion King $15
Mario Paint $5
MLBPA. Baseball $5
Monopoly $5
NHL Stanley Cup $5
NHLPA Hockey $5
P.T.O II $25
Pinball Dreams $10
Populous $5
Roger Clemens MVP Baseballe $5
StarFox $20
Super Mario World $25
Super Metroid $80
Tecmo Super Bowl $20
Tom and Jerry $15
Top Gear $10
Utopia $20
WWF Super Wrestlemania $10
Nintendo 64 (Cartridge Only)
N64 Console, power cable, AV cable, controller $100
N64 Console w/expansion pak, power cable, AV cable, controller $150
Memory Card (x5) $10/each
Rumble pak $20
Doom $35
Jet Force Gemini (No label) $5
NFL Blitz 2001 $30
Perfect Dark $20
Pokemon Snap $20
Rush 2: Extreme Racing USA (Label Issues) $15
Star Wars: Episode 1 Racer $10
Star Wars: Shadow of the Empire $15
Super Mario 64 (Faded label) $40
Superman 64 $15
Gamecube (CIB unless noted)
Dave Mirra Freestyle BMX 2 $10
Donkey Konga (Case and Disc) $20
Dragonball Z: Budokai (Case and Disc) $20
Dragonball Z: Budokai 2 $50
Final Fantasy: Crystal Chronicles $20
Fire Emblem: Path of Radiance (Case and Disc) $260
Harvest Moon: A Wonderful Life (Case and Disc) $30
Lego: Star Wars: The Video Game (Case and Disc) $10
Mario Superstar Baseball (Case and Disc) $60
Metal Arms: Glitch in the System $35
Metroid Prime (Case and Disc) $30
Namco Museum (Case and Disc) $10
Nascar Thunder 2003 $10
NBA Street Vol 2 $35
Paper Mario: The Thousand Year Door $100
Pokemon XD: Gale of Darkness (Case and Disc) $180
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2023.06.10 01:41 Cumgoblinn Where the Eyes Are Drawn: Part 6, A Tragic Sight

Scarlet billows, out of sight out of mind to pay attention to my sparkler. My walls and windows are painted in failure. My reflection has reddened. Oh my god. What are they gonna think?
What did she do? What happened? Where did she go? I feel like a lost puzzle piece. I can’t move. There’s blood on the floor and I can’t find my heart. Someone stole my innards and now I am empty. Each pop of the fireworks echoes in my rib cage. My intestines wrap around my neck like a python. I can’t breathe.
My White House has burned down; napalm erases without a trace but her absence will be felt. People will wonder where she is. She has gone missing. But I’m the last person to see her. In my own bedroom no less. Is more consequence coming my way? I have too much to lose. My future as an artist starts now and my time and brilliance will be lost in the sands of filled iron bars. My viewers will leave. I will have nothing left. The mop is in the garage.
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2023.06.10 01:41 Aggravating-Ad5734 Update on 3rd Gen WRX Hatch purchase

Hey everyone, in my last post I asked if the engine in a 3rd gen hatch I’m in the process of buying sounded healthy. All of you said happy tractor noises for the most part besides a hissing which the dealership mentioned was just the ac running from cold start.
Anyways, after more talk with the guy from the dealership who has been extremely helpful, I got a modification list: AVO TMIC, BOV, X-Force Catback w/ an aftermarket down pipe (not sure what brand), GrimSpeed Boost Controller, Joying Head Unit
The car has been tuned for all of these parts and according to the techs at the Subie dealership it’s a “great tune” Car is for sale for roughly $25k @35000 ish miles. These are all mods I intended to do except the BOV and Downpipe so I wanted to know your thoughts. Any comments are greatly appreciated!
Edit: grammar
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2023.06.10 01:40 SwampyWarrior My girlfriend (30/f) and I (32/m) are supposed to move in together soon, but we’ve had ongoing communication issues and haven’t seen eye to eye on some things recently...

Hi, as the title says, my girlfriend and I are supposed to move in together, but I feel like we have unresolved issues and moving in together won’t fix them, or at least most of them. I guess I should start at the start, and I’ll try not to make things too one sided, as I know most people are inclined to agree with the author of the post as it’s from their point-of-view, so don’t be afraid to push back on everything I have written, I am writing to get peoples opinions, be them agreeing with me or not agreeing with me. Also, sorry about all the text, I sometimes ramble, so each section has a TL/DR if you like.
I’ll start from the start, my girlfriend (who I’ll name Christine here) and I have been together for two years come September. I love her very much and I know she loves me. We met online (as ya do these days) and I was instantly attracted to how warm and thoughtful she was. Christine seemed to take an interest in what I might be interested in and put in the effort to plan dates around these things. She lives in an apartment with her sister, and is more central to town, where as I live in the suburbs, about a 15-20 minute drive away from her, although sometimes more in rush hour. She is very emotional, which is a pretty big contrast compared to my last ex, who either bottled things in or was more suppressed, whereas my current girlfriend will tell me how she is feeling from one hour to next it seems.
A little background on me prior to this relationship, TL/DR at the bottom of this paragraph:
I moved to this town about 6 years ago with my ex (who I’ll call Meg here), and at the time I bought a house when I moved here. Meg was never on the mortgage and I paid for most of the large house expenses, although we did split some of the other bills, like internet, heating, and small house renovations. In that time the company I was supposed to start work with laid off the entire team before my contract started, basically leaving me jobless and with a mortgage. I was quite stressed for a little bit, but was able to set up freelance and full-time work 4 months later. In that time I also started working on projects for myself, and one of them went well and I have been able to work full-time for myself for the past 4 and a half years. This basically makes me my own boss with my own hours, although I do like to keep a regular 9-5 Monday to Friday work schedule. Although I sometimes start later and work later, and on crunch weeks can pull pretty long hours (12 hour days including weekends), but I’ve gotten better with that for the most part. To make a long story short here, Meg and I got engaged after 5 years being together, but we broke up and she left me. In that time we adopted 5 pets, two dogs and 3 cats, she took 2 of the cats and I kept the other animals, leaving me with the house, two dogs, and 1 cat, which is still my current situation. I love my dogs very much and I treat them like my children, but they can be a lot sometimes. They’re a very needy breed, although they keep each other company which is nice. I paid Meg a lump-sum of money at the time to avoid any legal complications, and the statute of limitations has run out if she wanted to try to take more money for the house. Meg ended up getting married to someone 3 months after we broke up, and as far as I know they’re still together, but I have no contact with her, nor do I ever go on social media to see. I’m not huge on using social media, since I use it for my job, I really don’t like using it too much for me personally, although I do like to look at TV clips from shows I like on Instagram haha.
TL/DR for my background: Was in a relationship, bought a house, relationship broke up, I kept 2 dogs and 1 of the cats and was able to keep the house. I work for myself after losing my job, but still work a relatively normal work schedule that is somewhat flexible.
Now that there’s a little bit of background I should get into the meat and potatoes. Christine and I have been having communication issues, which I feel have become more prominent with the planned dates of moving into together. I feel like a lot of these issues have come up in the past, and we talked about them, but some of them are recurring, and I fear moving in together will not be a good way to solve most of them.
Issue 1: The house and how my girlfriend feels about it
It’s a pretty simple house in a quiet neighbourhood, is only one floor and two bedrooms, but is a pretty good amount of space for two people, especially since there is an attached garage and backyard. One of the bedrooms is my office and the other is, well, the bedroom. I have a living room and kitchen, and my hallway has a large closet that houses the washer and dryer. I and my ex did renovate some things, and since she moved out I continued to change some stuff, but am pretty happy with my house, although still have some bigger projects, like a bathroom renovation that I’d like to do at some point. Most people who I first show my house to usually say things like it’s really cute or this place is sweet, things of that nature, although Christine hasn’t really complimented it much. At one point she asked me if I planned to stay in my house forever, and I responded that if that was the case it wouldn’t bother me. Although I don’t necessarily think I’ll be in this place forever, but if I was it wouldn’t upset me. Real-estate where I am is extremely expensive, and I feel fortunate that I was able to but something when I did, as it’s become nearly impossible for my generation to buy anything. While it could be possible for me to sell this place and put the money towards a new mortgage somewhere, that isn’t currently my intention, as I am pretty happy with me current living situation.
Christine has said in the past that she considers my contentment to be me settling, which upset me greatly as I really don’t consider how I live to be “settling”. She has said she in the past that she dislikes my house, and feels she is sacrificing a lot to move in here, and that I haven’t acknowledged this sacrifice enough. The things she’s most sad about leaving behind in her apartment is the more central location, her favourite coffee shops, the shorter commute to work, having her own bedroom that is just her own, and despite sometimes having issues with her sister, she’s gonna miss living with her, as they’ve been roommates for nearly 3 years. She has listed the things she dislikes about my place, but it’s largely more suburban location, and it isn’t clean enough to her liking – it isn’t dirty, but my dogs a pretty messy, so I have agreed to hire cleaners to do more deep cleans every month or so, while I continue to tidy things up in the way that I have been doing. She also the dislikes the direction my house faces and feels like it doesn’t get enough light, although she is often over during the evening, and I feel like my house gets quite a bit of light during the day, so much so I often need to draw the blinds when the sun hits certain areas.
She’s also implied that she feels uncomfortable moving in to my place because I have history with a past relationship in this house, which I can understand, and have agreed to move her bed into the house when she moves in, as living on the same bed as a past relationship would probably be too strange. She has also implied that other couples when they move in together usually move into a whole new space, as she always had a dream of one day buying and picking out her own house and she feels that if she moves in with me that I am taking away her dreams. Although I’ve tried to re-frame her thinking, as once she moves in we can redecorate and change the place, paint, and more or less blend our two styles into one, making it our place. I also think the idea of couples moving into a new place together is usually when they either both already own a house or neither do, if someone in a relationship already owns their own house most often the partner who doesn’t will move in with them, but that’s just my own thoughts on it.
We’ve also gotten into arguments over changing patio furniture, which I already have, and she said we should buy an entire new set of furniture. I said I don’t really see why we would need a new entire set, my dogs have gotten fur on the current set, but otherwise they’re in good condition, and I said we could clean the furniture with my pressure washer whenever we want. I also agreed that we can expand the patio and add more furniture, a piece or two that she can pick out so that she has some choice in the matter. Although to get to that point she cried a lot and then told me she always had a dream of buying her own patio furniture and she feels like this is another dream that I’m trying to take away from her.
To be honest I am quite the saver and value my security over spending money on things that I already have. I grew up in a lower-middle class family and saw my parents struggle with finances, where as Christine grew up in what I would consider upper-middle class or even lower-high class, and possibly expects a little more than I do. Whereas I grew up learning to love what I have, Christine has often dreamed about what’s next and wanting more. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing for either of us, but this I feel has resulted in some of the arguments revolving around things and the house.
TL/DR Issue 1: My girlfriend seems to not like my house and feels she is sacrifising a lot to move in with me.
Issue 2: Me hanging out with my friends
Another issue that has come up is how we value our various friendships. Christine is more of an introvert and works in an office, so can feel relatively drained at the end of the day and often doesn’t feel the need to additional social interactions, although she does have some people she considers close friends, although maybe only sees them once a month or less even. Where as I am more of an extrovert, although I do like my alone time as well and do have introvert tendencies, but because I work for myself at home I do like to fill my social interactions with my friends when I’m not working. Now I’m not a party animal and I don’t go out every night of the week or anything like that, but I do see my friends maybe 2-3 times a week, often in a group setting.
Christine and I did a personality test recently, which showed that she carries the introvert tendencies, but also can be very jealous and feel like she has extreme FOMO when events are going on. Even when she is invited to them but declines as her social battery is low, she still feels like she has been left out, despite being invited to join by me or someone else in my friend group. I always make an effort to invite her most of the time, unless I know it’s just gonna be a guys night, in which case I try to let her know what I’m up to.
Sometimes my friends are last minute with plans so they’ll text me, and I’ll rush to take care of my dogs and then head out. I try to let my girlfriend know what I’m up to and invite her, but since we don’t live together I don’t always give her a play by play at all times of the day of what I’m up to. Past relationships I’ve had haven’t really wanted to know what I was doing at all times if we’re not living together. I’ve also never made plans with her and then ditched her for my friends, I always make a point to stick to my word and keep any plans that we have set in stone.
In the past when I’ve been hanging out with my friends her texts to me have been short and impersonal and I can tell she’s upset, this has sometimes taken away my joy from hanging out with my friends. She has stated that she isn’t upset at me, but just upset that she is missing out on something, despite most of the times being invited to join. While moving in together would result in me and Christine seeing each other more and I’d of course always let her know if I was heading out or wouldn’t be home when she was expecting me, I sometimes fear her FOMO and the sometimes hour long conversations reassuring her about our relationship after I hang out with my friends.
I feel like this comes down to trust issues, and I feel like Christine doesn’t trust me, despite never being dishonest with her. I’ve had previous relationships cheat on my either emotionally or physically and that’s a pain that doesn’t go away, so I’ve always made an effort to never do anything unbecoming as such. The trust issues come down possibly to Christine’s insecurities about herself, and while I’ve tried to comfort her or reassure her, I feel like it’s a personal issue that she should be talking to a therapist about. She was seeing a therapist for a while, but has stopped recently, stating that the therapist was to agreeable with her, and she wasn’t seeing actionable changes. Although she is self-aware enough to realize that these trust and insecurity issues are her own.
This is compounded further because my friend group has a female friend, I’ll call her Carlotta, who is dating one of my closest friends. After my ex and I broke up 2 and a half years ago, Carlotta and her boyfriend (my close friend) broke up, Carlotta and I both got a little drunk and bonded over our breakups and kissed. We only kissed and nothing else happened, but the next morning we both said that it was a bad idea and that was more or less the end of it. My close friend and Carlotta ended up getting back together about a month later, and after some awkwardness, my close friend forgave both of us for the kiss. They were of course broken up at the time, and I respect peoples relationships too much to ever make a move on someone who is in a relationship, nor would I ever make a move on someone when I’m in a relationship myself. Carlotta and I both chalked it up to both feeling lonely with the recent break-ups. I still hang out with my close friend weekly usually, and Carlotta is there I’d say about 25% of the time, so I might see her once a month or so in group settings. In an effort to be honest with Christine I told her about I and Carlotta’s history early on in our relationship, and this only made Christine more insecure. When I told her I was unaware of her underlying trust and insecurity issues, although I still feel like open honesty was probably the best choice.
While the FOMO and jealousy over me hanging out with my friends is still there, if Carlotta is around it is usually worse. This has led Christine to comparing herself to Carlotta, or at least the idea of Carlotta. Christine at one point block her Instagram because she would see Carlotta’s stories feel even more insecure. Christine has accused me of hiding things from her about me and Carlotta’s past, which I haven’t, and accused me of acting awkward when Carlotta is around. Although I feel like any awkwardness is probably because I know Christine is insecure around Carlotta, so I might be a little uncomfortable not wanting to upset my girlfriend.
While I feel like this has gotten better recently, when I hung out with my friends the other day, Carlotta happened to be there and I told my girlfriend as much afterwards. I of course invited my girlfriend to join at the time, but she wasn’t interested. When we talked on the phone and I told my girlfriend what my friends and I got up to, I could feel like she was upset, and she told me she felt triggered. I asked her why exactly, and the conversation eventually spun off, and while recognizing that it is her insecurity issues, she got upset with how she felt I responded to her being triggered. While I was trying to figure out why exactly she was upset, she became upset at me for not instead immediately comforting her. Although I did try to comfort her, I guess it wasn’t in the way she wanted to be comforted. She accused me of “being attracted greatness”, and because she considers Carlotta to be “great” I musty be attracted to her. This isn’t the case, I’m really not attracted to Carlotta in that way anymore, so I feel like I need to defend myself. Then I get accused of being defensive, so really there’s no winning. It took an hour of back and forth talking to eventually come to end the phone call on good terms where neither of us were upset.
TL/DR issue 2: My girlfriend is insecure and very anxious when I hang out with my friends.
Issue 3: Communication stuff I guess?
While this has probably been apparent in some of the above writing, I really feel like we sometime struggle to understand one another. I’m a very logical person and tend to need a reason for something to be a certain way or to change things. Christine is more emotional and a dreamer, she’s more concerned with thoughts and feelings where as I am more interested in facts and data. Neither of these things is a real issue at all, except for when it comes to conversations that lead to disagreements. Sometimes I feel like we’re having a perfectly normal conversation with some back and forth, and then all of a sudden she’s upset at me and in tears, and I try to rewind the conversation to find something that would have resulted in this response, and I legit can’t. That probably makes me sound pretty stupid, because if someone is crying there must be a reason, but even when she repeats what made her upset, I can’t even place in the conversation when this happened. Seriously, I rack my brain trying to place it and it just isn’t there. I feel like I’m losing my mind. Eventually we can maybe rewind enough to the initial triggering, but even when it’s repeated I have no idea why it would deserve this emotional of a response.
Some of the time it’s because she took a joke I said as reality, not realizing it was a joke. So I have to explain the joke in great detail so that she can get it. I’m a very jokey person by nature and do struggle to be serious. Christine is less jokey, and more serious by nature. Sometimes I can say a joke and she laughs really hard, so she isn’t humourless by any degree. I just think because she’s so serious that she sometimes assumes what I’m saying is serious, and suddenly all the context is gone.
Other times it seems she gets upset at me for reasons that others wouldn’t. I play sports with my friend in recreational leagues, and every now and then we’ve needed a sub so my girlfriend has filled in. After some of the games she is, at least I feel she is, angry at me for perceived things about how I play. Sometimes when you’re playing with a sub you don’t have the same groove as your team usually would, but my girlfriend seems to take it personally if I don’t pass the ball to her enough, and accuses me of not wanting to improve at the sport, despite my level of play being equal or better than most of my team-members, at least in my opinion. There are obviously ways I could improve, but this is a rec league and I only play once a week at most and I’m not going for the majors, most of us are there to have a good time and play the game, and then maybe grab some drinks after to celebrate the win or the loss. I can feel Christine’s mood sour if we aren’t doing well, and everyone else isn’t upset at all. Sometimes you lose and sometimes you win, but she hates losing and is very competitive. While she’s not horrible at the game, she doesn’t play as often as we all do, and is probably not quite on our level. So she gets upset when she feels she’s letting the team down, but I’ve told her many times that no one feels like she is letting us down. She does feel like she needs to be the best at stuff, and when she isn’t she gets upset at herself, and then might turn it around on me. It got to the point where I had to stop inviting her to join us as she was getting too upset either visibly in the game or at me after for some perceived slights, for not passing the ball enough, or for me not improving enough since playing.
We have started going to therapy, largely because I want to iron out these issues before moving in together, and in the session I brought up the FOMO and insecurities she has over me hanging out with my friends. We talked and I got some perspective on her side, and I hope she got some perspective on my side. We mostly talked about the house issues though, as that was the most pressing, and the FOMO stuff was relegated to a small part of therapy. Later on in the evening when I went over to her place to hang out she said she felt blindsided about how I brought up her insecurities about this in therapy. She said that she felt we had talked about these issues in the past and didn’t think that it should have been brought up in therapy. I told her that just because we’ve talked about it in the past, and it has gotten a little better, doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t try to talk about it in therapy to gain a better perspective. For context, the next night she got upset when I hung out with my friends, aka the last paragraph of issue 2, so it’s pretty clear that this is an ongoing issue and hasn’t been fully resolved.
The therapist even picked up on something that my girlfriend has started somewhat jokingly diagnosing herself with after watching some videos on TikTok, that is possibly her having ADHD or being somewhere on the Autism spectrum. Both of these would explain why she struggles to contain her emotions, and appreciates having control of her environment, although I can’t really say for sure either way, as I’m not equipped myself to diagnose anything.
TL/DR of Issue 3: Sometimes we just don’t seem to get each other or be on the same page.
In closing:
Welp, that was a long novel. I think Stephen King will be reaching out to me for the rights soon. I know this might seem like a lot of things, but I just wanted to provide as much detail as possible, plus I think it’s probably all kind of the same thing, but written a whole bunch of different ways. I really do love my girlfriend and want to work out these issues. I hope that therapy is enough to be able to see eye to eye, but I maybe wanted some outside perspective. And I would ask that people keep in mind the ass for mentioned bias that this write-up has probably in my favour, so I would appreciate any opinions in favour of my girlfriend. I really want this to workout, I just want this relationship to last when we move in together, that’s why I wrote all this out, and that’s why we started going to therapy. I truly do love her and I know she loves me. If you read this entire thing then I thank you, and even if you just read the TL/DR of each issue I still thank you.
TL/DR: My girlfriend and I want to move in together, but I feel like communication issues, issues with her thoughts on my house, and her insecurities over my friendships may need to be resolved first. Would appreciate any advice. What would you do in my situation, or how would you handle any of the situations noted above?
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