My stepmom manhua

My Stepmom's Daughter Is My Ex

2022.01.28 03:54 Woppa02 My Stepmom's Daughter Is My Ex

For the upcoming anime Mamahaha no Tsurego

2019.02.21 00:02 Repulsive_Stable My Wife Is A Demon Queen

My Wife is a Demon Queen manhua series.

2008.08.09 22:35 /r/manga: manga, on reddit.

Everything and anything manga! (manhwa/manhua is okay too!) Discuss weekly chapters, find/recommend a new series to read, post a picture of your collection, lurk, etc!

2023.05.29 07:44 Bassianus2004 Can you train ai with a specific manga style?

Hey guys, I’m wondering if it’s possible to train an ai to create images with a specific manga (my case Manhwa) style that you trained it with. Additionally, I also know that you can train stable diffusion to create certain characters, but is this also possible with manga/manhwa characters?
-Thanks for any feedback you guys might give
Edit: For reference, specifically I wanna recreate the artwork from the Manhwa “Player”. I just read 104 chapters and really liked it. I thought the art style was really cool and wondered if it’s possible to be able to teach ai to draw like that since I can’t.
Again thanks a ton for any responses guys.
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2023.05.29 07:37 Gallacticwater TW SA: Should I cut off my dad and stepmom?

Hello I am twenty years old and based on something I found out tonight I am considering cutting of my dad and stepmom. I have already planned on doing it once my youngest sibling moves out but I’m thinking about speeding up the process. My stepmom was abusive to me when I was a child and my dad wasn’t much better. I think they are terrible parents and people. They don’t hit their kids or anything but are abusive in other ways. The only reason I still go to their house is for my siblings so I have to put on act and pretend everything is okay. I don’t know if I can do it any longer. A couple years ago my sister told me she had been SA’s by one of her parents friends. I assumed they didn’t know because they were still friends with him but I didn’t tell them because that’s hers to tell not me. Fast forward to this evening this friend had come over to the house. I asked my brother if he was staying the night and he said he’s going camping with them. This made me very anxious because I have a little sister who is eight and that’s around the time she was SA’d. I talked to my sister about this because I was concerned for her safety hoping she would tell them but she told me they already knew. She said her mom was uncomfortable with him being around but she can’t really do anything about it because of my dad. Either he just doesn’t care or doesn’t believe her which I find disgusting. How could you still be friends with someone who assaulted your daughter when she was young much less let him be around your eight year old daughter??! Like wtf is wrong with you? I don’t know if I can stand to look at him anymore but at the same time I don’t want to not be able to see my siblings especially my little ones who are 7 and 8. I don’t know what to do.
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2023.05.29 07:09 -here_we_are- AITA for not making peace after leaving my stepmother out of wedding dress shopping and not abiding by my dad's rules?

My fiance (21M) proposed to me (22F) last Aug. My mom decided to host an engagement party and invite her side of the family (her and Dad are divorced). Later, Dad and stepmom(A) asked to speak with my fiance and I. A was upset about being left out of the celebration and not being treated equal to Mom. I apologized, reminded her I love her like a mother, and explained to her that Mom arranged the party and we did not mean to hurt any feelings. A said if there is any chance of that happening again, to PLEASE not involve her in the first place. I asked her if she was SURE. She said she was.
After this, I kept A involved in the things I wanted her to be a part of. I cant involve Mom and A in the same things at the same time. The venue would be A's thing. This went well, we picked one (mostly) together. In Oct, A asked when we should start dress shopping. I told her I already had a dress I picked out. I went with my MOH before she left to study abroad, my mom, and sister a month earlier. I didn't invite A because she asked me not to tell her about things I wasn't involving her in, and I would have had to pick between A and my mom. So I picked my mom. A sent me a message saying she couldn't be involved in the wedding anymore because it was too hurtful. I apologized. I visited again in Jan. and didnt speak to A. Dad gave me all my childhood Christmas ornaments. I apparently wasn't invited back.
A week later my dad asked me apologize to A for not inviting her to go dress shopping. I told him I have been the one making peace and apologizing since I was a CHILD. It is a pattern for A to blow things out of proportion and not take accountability for it. This is the first time that I have decided not to be the peacemaker, and left it to Dad and A to fix things. After I made it clear I wasn't going to apologize, Dad said, "I don't even want to go to your wedding because of this" Ouch.
A month later, Dad asked us to meet and talk. I insisted we needed a counselor present so my side would be acknowledged. Before meeting, he set 8 rules I had to follow for him to be in the ceremony: 1i can't treat A the way I've been treating her 2A will be at the wedding to support Dad 3 it will only be the 2 of us walking down the aisle 4mom and stepdad will NOT be up in the ceremony at the same time as Dad. 5I must seat Dad away from Mom 6dad will not include Mom in anything. If asked "who gives away this bride", he'll respond, "A and I do." 7If I do not treat A with respect, Dad and A will leave as soon as the ceremony is over. 8If I do not abide by these expectations, Dad will walk out during the ceremony I told him I won't be following his rules for MY WEDDING so I understand if he chooses not to be a part of the ceremony. My aunt and cousin told me later that at Christmas Dad and A told everyone I was cheating on my fiance before he proposed. This statement is completely fictional.
Yesterday I asked Dad for his RSVP. He said he booked a vacation instead to celebrate Father's Day.
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2023.05.29 06:42 angelbun402 Hi. I don't know if this will ever get out, but here goes.

Hi. Please call me Angel. Or Alex, or bun. I don't care. I am 14 years old. This is my petty revenge against my father.
Just tonight, my (37M) father was basically goin off about how I should be on my phone the whole time. However, I was just only watching the new puss in boots movie with my (18M) cousin and (11F) little sister. I thought that was stupid and dumb. But now not only had he unknowingly lit a match, but is now going to burn one last bridge in his life. Me.
Like I said, I thought he was being stupid and shit like that. He said how it's always important to keep communication with family, yet, his family doesn't even keep contact with him. Hmmm... I wonder why (sarcasm).
For a little background info, I grew up in a religious household. It was always me, my sister, my dad and my (36F) mom. I thought things were always great. Until sometime near the summer of 2020, things were off.
My parents would argue a lot. I was always scared. One time when I was little, I said behind closed doors, "if they argue all the time, why don't they divorce?" Well, that part came true.
In 2020, my little sister was fast asleep. I however, was still awake, because of sleep troubles. Then my dad walked in from the side door of the kitchen, late at night. It was weird. Then my mother went up and questioned him. He was trying to play dumb and what not. My mother, however, is the smartest bitch alive. That is why I am my mother's daughter. Anyway, my mother kept saying you cheated on me, you cheated on me. Keep in mind, I was awake the whole time. And that was the first time I have ever had a panic attack. I was 11 years old at the time.
Now, I realized all the narcissistic behavior. He has always put me and my art down. He's always criticized me and how I look. Heck he even body shames my little sister because she has a bigger figure. He called her a busted up biscuit one time because she wore a dress. She's 11.
And he pulls this, "be glad I'm not a deadbeat dad" card a lot.
Oh, also, this man is homophobic, transphobic, misogynistic, bigoted, and racist. This is the man I once called my "father"
My (28F) stepmom is married to him and I have my now (M) 8 month old brother. My cousin always chooses his side. So, if my dad, cousin, auntie, and father see this. Fuck you. fuck all of you in fact.
Dad, you have ruined my life. My mom, sister, and me have put up with your abuse for way to damn long, and you've pushed me to the edge. You've put the last straw that broke the camel's back. My only advice for you is to get help. Get therapy. Don't even try to manipulate anyone on your side anymore. My mom did a good thing leaving you.
Fix your broken relationship with your oldest child before you lose them forever.
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2023.05.29 06:39 InfiniteAnimator426 What happens after the "My Stepmom's Daughter is My Ex" Anime? (Potential Spoilers)

Can anyone tell me a summary of the volumes after the anime? (Only watched the anime.)(Also, doesn't have to be a short summary, just a basic summary of what happened after. It can be long if you have to.)
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2023.05.29 05:31 LoveMangaBuddy Read Grey Eminence Female Lead Is Trying To Make Me Her Stepmom - Chapter 66 - MangaPuma

I possessed the role of Civilian 1 in the 'tragic novel' I wrote with my friends as a joke. However, I was soon discovered by the female lead's father, known for endlessly doting on his daughter. The problem is... "Then, what'll happen to my daughter in this 'tragic novel'?" "...What? Ten male leads?" The father of the heroine, Duke Henstone, declared revolution in order to change his daughter's m ... Read Grey Eminence Female Lead Is Trying To Make Me Her Stepmom - Chapter 66 - MangaPuma. Read more at
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2023.05.29 05:30 LoveMangaBuddy Read Éminence Grise Female Lead Is Trying to Make Me Her Stepmom - Chapter 71 - MangaPuma

I have transported as civilian 1 into the “tragic novel” I wrote with my friends for fun. Since he declares revolution in order to change his daughter’s unhappy future. If I leave it like this then many lives are in danger. “I will protect the female lead!” That’s how I started to live with the daughter stupid duke. But the small female lead is a bit strange for some reason. + ... Read Éminence Grise Female Lead Is Trying to Make Me Her Stepmom - Chapter 71 - MangaPuma. Read more at
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2023.05.29 05:26 ohyouknow02 Advice on moving out

Hi so this might be a longer post i’m just at my wits end. There will be a TLDR at the end but I ask you to read for as much context as possible.
So I’m 23 and still live with my parents. I live with my dad and stepmom, and I’m very much done with being here and have been for a long time. I’m autistic and have anxiety/depression and they are very old fashioned and “pull yourself up by the bootstraps” when it comes to mental health. They constantly shame me for struggling and for not “acting like a normal person”. Im constantly mocked for the way I speak and for my body language and also criticized on a normal everyday basis, mostly from my stepmother.
She’s incredibly hypocritical. She doesn’t let me defend myself or freaks out whenever I try to. Im very non confrontational and tend to cry when I try to speak about my feelings towards them, which makes things a lot worse. My dad goes into yelling fits and this usually causes them both to argue with each other.
They get on my ass about forgetting things (which is hypocritical because they have forgotten to pick up important medication for me on multiple occasions), constantly get on my ass about school (im in my 5th year of college, which my dad is making me transfer to a school closer to our house. he does not pay for my college.) They also get on my ass about not having a full time job.
I guess the straw that broke the camels back recently was the fact that they didn’t congratulate me for finishing my semester. Which, sure, whatever. But it’s the fact that I was hounded to tell them the dates I was finished with school “to celebrate together” that makes me angry.
There is also other things that I wont get into, like the occasional gaslighting, using my goals against me, making fun of my interests, constant criticism no matter what I do, control/needing to know where I am at all times, and belittlement. My siblings are also frustrated with my stepmoms actions but they do not get it as bad as I do.
My dad has stated that he doesn’t want me to move out because he doesn’t think i could handle myself after a breakdown I had last year while I lived in my college apartment. (Note: this wasn’t a breakdown out of nowhere. A lot of events such as death, what was supposed to be my final semester of college, a breakup with my girlfriend of 3 years, shitty roommates)
I guess another note is that my parents try to convince me that anyone I move in with will hate me because of my depression and “slowness”.
I’m very tired of living like this, I’m fucking 23 years old. My boyfriend and his mom have offered for a place to stay in Arizona and have been doing everything they can to help me out there. They’re both very sweet and I can’t thank them enough. I visited them back in March and I almost canceled my flight back when my dad flipped out on the phone at me after figuring out that I opened a student credit card a few weeks prior.
I have some roadblocks stopping me from moving.
1.) I can’t drive. Which isn’t necessarily an issue, my bf’s mom has offered to help me get on the road once I get there.
2.) My cat. I have a cat that gets incredibly nervous when in a carrier, to the point where she has awful diarrhea and throws up. It’s not fun to deal with.
3.) The fact that I’m moving cross country. I would like to move my stuff there but I don’t know what would be the best method. I don’t trust my parents to pack my stuff after I move out.
4.) School? I’m sure that I can transfer after I get settled in. I just have to worry about loans.
6.) Also I was thinking about applying for disability, which my therapist and I started and I know that takes awhile to process. I’m not sure if I would need to wait until that’s settled/wait until I get to Arizona.
I guess I’m all over the place and I feel like at this point me waiting until next spring or god knows how long before moving out isn’t an option. I told my parents that my dream is to move out to Arizona with my boyfriend, and my stepmom flipped her shit at me about it. I don’t know how I should tell them or when or if I should tell them at all.
TLDR: I need to move out of my toxic household. I have a place to go but it’s cross country and I have a cat that gets anxiety shits that I want to move out with me. I guess I just want some advice on how I should go about this.
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2023.05.29 04:51 A-Little-Fishy collect novel or manhua?

Hello! I am planning to either purchase all of the novels OR, as it releases, all the volumes of the manhua/official comic. I can't afford to collect both adaptations, unfortunately. So far, I have vol 1 of the manhua (which I absolutely adore, its so beautiful with thick pages and the art is amazing) but I've never read the novel officially, so it feels like I'm missing out on little details the other adaptations dont have/change. I will likely sell the manhua if I decide to collect the novels instead.
So my questions:
  1. Does the manhua leave out things from the novel? If so, to what degree? Will there be censorship?
  2. To those who have the novels, how often do you find yourself rereading it?
  3. Finally, the question the title proposes!
Thank you in advance, and I hope what I've asked makes sense!
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2023.05.29 04:46 Still_Needleworker11 Script list as of May 28th

As the title has described, I'll be listing the entirety of scripts that I have done since doing this in Nov. of 2022
Some of this list will be in chronological order while others (Series) will be at the bottom of the list.
I also tried dividing this list from the Female, Male, and Anyone scripts. The series scripts that are completed will not say anything at the end, while the one's ongoing will have a (Cont.) in it. The one's with a "?" are simply weather or not I would continue them.
Hope this make it easier if you wonder weather or not to read any my Ideas. Also, apologies if they are just links and a little messy. I'll try to fix it for the future.
  1. Guardian Angel
Female Scripts
Anyone Scripts
Male Scripts
Tomboy Princess
Lamia Vice Principal
Kaguya sama and Chika
Lucky The dog girl
Part 1
Part 2
Part 3
Part 4
Part 5
Part 6
Principal Drider
7 Minutes in heaven (Nerd)
7 Minutes in heaven (Cheerleader)
Hex Maniac
Part 1
Part 2
Part 3
Part 4
Buff GF
Goth Gardevoir
Star Quarterback
Pinkie the slime girl
Justice the Awesome Demon
Tomboy Pilot
Edit: wasn't sure what category to put this under, I figure discussion was the "Safest" choice. If it wasn't understand this is the first time I did something like this.
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2023.05.29 03:57 Intrepid-Cycle-3017 Justified?

I live with my parents. I got home from work and my grandparents were over having dinner with my stepmom and father. Eventually my dad noticed my hair was messy. I tried to comb it before sitting down with them. He asks whats wrong with it and I said I tried to comb it. It must have been messed up again because he's like yea sure. And that got to me. It legit bothered me. The fact he's pointing out flaws. When they left I told him straight that it was rude. And essentially he doesn't care because if I dobt like it I can leave. ...I can't leave yet. Called it "that's how sensitive we're being now?" It's not life threatening so I'm gonna leave it alone. But he will not compromise, wo t talk about it. Anytime drama shows up he forces it to be dropped. Without the topic of housing coming up. But he won't talk about it. I do t know if I'm right or wrong. But that's what I get for standing up for myself. He's mad at me for having an attitude BECAUSE OF WHAT HE SAID.
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2023.05.29 03:50 TurnMoney4898 Greif Isolation

When I grieve I notice I isolate myself from others because to me the safest place for me is at home. Today my dad had a family gathering (due to the holiday) with his wife and my siblings.
No one asked me anything about the passing of my fiancé (he passedon 5/6/2023) until I and my dad’s wife were alone she proceed to ask a million questions about how is my son taking it (my son is four).
Then I told her I dont like talking to others who have not experienced loss because they say some of the dumbest things to people on the other side.
To give a little back story my mom passed in 2016 and then my fiance in 2023. Yes, it's hard. Yes, it's not fair. But one thing I hate is people tell me how hard it is to lose people when you are young. Losing a loved one at 20 and 40 if you ask me the pain you experience is inevitable. It fucking hurts.
She (my stepmom) loss her mother in her late 30 and she is saying its harder for me because I was 22 and now 28 for my fiancé. I don’t want to hear that nonsense and this is why I stay at home.
People will try to hurt you for no reason. It's been a few weeks since losing my finance. Lord knows I don’t want to hear how hard it is I AM LIVING IT. The tunnel I am walking through is dark and I have to move forward because turning back nothing is there. The ones I loved the most are gone.
No one wants their loss to be treated as a comparing and contrasting of what age is worst. The young or old - the death of a loved one is hard.
All over the place but I'm just upset.
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2023.05.29 03:24 LoveMangaBuddy Read No More Money, Please - Chapter 165 - MangaPuma

Reading Manhua No More Money, Please at Manhua Website. “Who’d have thought that one day I’d be bothered by the money in my hand?” Lin Tian was an ordinary college student until one day, he got a system that made him the richest man in the world. “This is your budget for today. Should you fail to spend it, you’ll have to receive punishment.” Fine, spending money is easy. But wait?! To spend a bill ... Read No More Money, Please - Chapter 165 - MangaPuma. Read more at
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2023.05.29 03:17 LoveMangaBuddy Read Unabiding to the Husband’s Virtue - Chapter 56 - MangaPuma

Si Long lived in a matriarchal society in her last life. As the Empress, she took the supreme power, enjoyed countless beauties and infinite wealth. But she travelled to another world and suprisedly found it a patriachal society! What’s more, she even has to bear children on her own! This is intolerable! But my imperial teacher is really … tasty?!Unabiding to the Husband’s Virtue manhuaBù Sh?u F? ... Read Unabiding to the Husband’s Virtue - Chapter 56 - MangaPuma. Read more at
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2023.05.29 02:36 Fresh_Penalty_4157 Question about alarm

Hello! My stepmom has an Outback and the alarm is armed at their house. There are wildfires nearby and apparently the alarm is going off. We are trying to figure out if the fire has gotten to their house. Can anyone give any anecdotal experience about Subaru alarms and fire?
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2023.05.29 02:34 intelligentapple567 Is it right for my parents to control my money?

Hey, me and my brother and recently gotten jobs. We both make a decent amount of money for teens, so obviously we like to spend a bit of it. Sometimes at lunch me and him will occasionally buy some snacks or some bubble tea. He's saving up his own money to buy his own laptop.
Financially, my family of 6 makes just enough to get by. My stepmom is angry at my brother that he is spending what she thinks is a lot of money on lunch or food once in a while. She says that she's extremely frugal and some how the fact that we aren't trying to save every penny is bad. Part of this is a. Because we are poor and b. They are immigrants - to be completely honest, I think they are horrible with saving money but that is another discussion. She gave examples like the fact that she starves at lunch and only brings like maybe some crackers or small snacks to make it through the day but we are willing to spend money and buy a burrito and some bubble tea. For context, me and my brother bring lunches from home a lot of the time.
I spend most of my savings on stuff I use for band (I'm a clarinet player so I use reeds and such), and I've saved up quite a bit of money now (altogether, probably a little over 1000 CAD and I still have a job) and I'm buying my own clarinet plus a mouthpiece for a good price from a music repairshop. Even after making this purchase, I'll get 500 dollars more saved up from a newspaper job I'm working separately. So I am not spending my whole bank account!! It makes me really upset that I have to hide this from them, mostly my stepmom because my dad is not home much.
I just feel like because they are upset means I can't live my life or enjoy myself with money that I worked for. And it's not like I am spending it on video games or anything.. music is honestly the only reason I wake up to even go to school at this point. My teacher tells me I'm playing really well so I feel like I deserve to upgrade to my own clarinet. It keeps me happy and distracted from the fact that I absolutely hate my home life.
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2023.05.29 02:23 Taggart1991 Am I overreacting? Pregnant and losing my insurance.

I am three months pregnant, two months away from losing my insurance, we spoke about getting married before, but today I got the "I am working on a plan A, B, or C" when the plan was to get married before the baby arrived. Many things are happening at once, I am moving out of state, I am leaving my job after six years, I am playing stepmom now as well since his child is coming with us, we are also buying a house together, and when I heard the whole A, B,or C I lost it and told him if I have to go get medical help as a single mom then I will truly be a single mom. He's upset, I am upset, can't stop crying, and feel like I failed my baby. He said he never said for me to go get help as a single mom, but he didn't give me a 'hey, we will be married before you lose your insurance' instead plan A, B, or C....
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2023.05.29 01:22 n1nj4zftw Webtoons or manga like madq or my food is very cute

I love wholesome reads with very little drama. Mage and demon queen and my food is very cute are some of my favorites. Fully colored, incredibly cute characters, and little drama. Any suggestions similar to those two would be very much appreciated. Webtoon manga manhwa manhua doesn’t matter to me =)
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2023.05.29 01:13 Duqu88 [FO] Dreaming of Tuscany (Dimensions) post- and pre-backstitch

[FO] Dreaming of Tuscany (Dimensions) post- and pre-backstitch
The 1st pic is complete; 6ish months for the whole thing...the 2nd pic is pre-backstitch and the 6 french knots (it took about 2 days to do most of the backstitching). It's one of the Dimensions Gold Collection Petites that I'm sure has been seen here before. Will be a belated mother's day gift for my stepmom.
Still need to wash/iron/frame.
I know Dimensions likes to do the mix of half and full stitch for "texture" but I'm not a huge fan of how it looks in this piece. It's not all that great when you look closely at the details but at a distance of a few feet the appearance is pleasing!
I also wish I'd chosen a different shade of Aida...I had to start over after some big mistakes initially and chose Aida that was too "white/ivory" than "yellowed-white" and regret that since many of the white stitches don't show up well. Oh well.
And yes, I know I should cross my "X's" in the same direction, but I prefer to mindlessly stitch than constantly worry about the X's being perfect, and my back is a giant mess but it doesn't really bother me.
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2023.05.28 23:56 caboose1157 Looking for a cinderella au chapter that I can't find

I remember seeing a cinderella style au on one of the yuri subreddits a while back and I can't remember what the name of it was. What I remember is:
-it was like only one chapter(which I remember being a little disappointed in)
-it was between the Cinderella-esque character and her stepmom
-the story(from what I remember at least) was basically that on the day of the ball the stepmother took the cinderella character on a date instead
-It's my first time posting here so I hope I'm using the correct flairs, etc. I can't remember if it was specifically a manga or manhua, or something similar in particular but I think it was a manga.
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2023.05.28 23:47 oranjui I feel like my dad cares more about my stepmom and stepsiblings than me and my siblings

Am I just jealous? Is this a normal stepfamily problem? Am I creating a self-fulfilling prophecy? Maybe, I don't know. It just feels like that, myself (23) and my younger sibling (18) are trans and my older brother being gay (25), we are all varying degrees of distant from my dad for different reasons, and I am the only one still particularly close with him (my sibling has minimal contact with my dad, and I am no-contact with my older brother going on 3 years now because he was abusive to almost all of my family, but my dad still is in contact with him); my 3 stepsiblings are all about the same ages, just more like the children you'd expect in a 'normal'(cisnormative) family, even though I think they are all bi too, so I guess the queer part probably isn't as big of a deal as I think it is. I know he's hurt my mom in irreparable ways, and he's hurt me in many ways too, and he manipulated the divorce agreements that were unfair to all of us, but at this point he's still supportive in my life, mostly in material ways but lately we have been able to gain some ground in emotional connection. But a lot of times when we see each other or call each other, he just tells me updates about my stepsiblings who I don't even know that well (they came into my life right as I was moving out at 18 for college--that I dropped out of--so I just didn't have much opportunity for connection with them) rather than asking about my life or trying to get more involved in my life.
I still need him but it feels like I've (and maybe my siblings) failed him in his eyes in some way by being queer and by me and my older brother both dropping out of college. Which I know is my internalized homophobia and internalized transphobia and shame talking from bullying growing up and proselytising extended family and internalizing unrelenting expectations for myself from peers/teachers/society. But sometimes that wound still hurts. Or maybe it's about resentment of our connection with our mom? Because me and my younger sibling are very much closer with our mom? I don't really know anymore.
I'm just frustrated and sad and guilty and longing and nostalgic and hurt about it. And it's a weird hurt, because I know he's hurt me and my other family members too, but somehow I still want him back in my life more? My dad wasn't physically absent but he was very emotionally absent growing up. So part of it is feeling a void from childhood, and part of it is envy of what my stepsiblings have--they have a biological dad AND a biological mom AND a stepdad who care deeply about them and invest in their lives and are very present nowadays, but I just have a struggling bio mom and a strained/pained connection with my bio dad and stepmom. I am starting to connect more with my stepmom at least on the times that I see her. She's meaningful in my life, but I still feel weird about my dad inserting himself into her whole life.
Is this what they call daddy issues? Lol.
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2023.05.28 23:31 Autumn0714 Told my stepmom (32) I had miscarriaged, father (55) didn't asked how I'm(25) doing.

To start, I had a miscarriage last May 9, at this time I didn't know I was pregnant and was just suspecting due to abnormal menstruation and pain. I went to ob-gyne on May 13 and they confirmed I had a miscarriage. I eventually told my stepmom about it because I feel like that is the right thing to do and I'm kinda hoping she would tell my father about it and he would asked me if I'm okay or just let me know that he cares.
(P.S. I converse more with my stepmom than with my father, which is why I told her first. Also, we are a broken family, mom died when I was young and my father and I were not really close. We often do not talk and when I was living with them, we just saw each other around the house and never conversed unless it's something about finances (because I'm helping them with bills and groceries).
That week after knowing I had a miscarriaged sucks. I am experiencing severe pain both physically and emotionally. My bf (29) was very supportive and loving but I just felt like it was not enough. I want my family to ask me how I am and I just really want them to care.
I told my bestfriend about it as well and she's better than my fam. She checks in on me whenever she's not busy and she just makes me feel she will always be there to help me recover.
Now, I don't really know if my stepmom ever told my Dad about it but I gave it a week or so and no message or checking in whatsoever. At that point, I just told my bestfriend about them not checking in and I just cried. It was so painful for me knowing that they don't care even at times like this.
I said out of anger that I don't want to help them with their finances anymore and I just want to focus on continuing to help my little brother with his study. I have to prepare since hes going to college. Bestfriend said that she warned me a long time ago about it, that I should not give financial support to my Dad and his new family and instead I should help my two younger siblings. I didn't listen at that time because I want to help him, even if he really doesn't care about us.
Up until now, stepmom didn't check in on me after I told her about it last May 13. Dad as well. Pay date is coming and last time I was so sure that Idgaf about them anymore but rn, I kinda feel bad that I would ignore them and will not give them anything. What should I do? I really need some good insight about this to help me decide what's the best action to take.
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